What is with this fascination with Mr. Darcy, ladies?
Really, seriously… I need to have this explained to me, in detail. WHY are ladies so fascinated by him?
It’s got to be because he’s rich, because otherwise… he’s just ‘ewwwwww’. He’s snotty, snobby, tosses insults around like the flower petals fangirls throw in his path… Not to mention the whole lack of emotions thing? Not attractive. Not attractive in the least.
So can someone explain why girls are so wild to go looking for someone like him? Why there are a thousand and one quotes about trying to find 'my Mr Darcy' or how you should be a Lizzie and catch a Darcy on Pinterest? I could understand (almost) any other Jane Austen hero*. Mr. Knightly, Mr. Tilney, even Colonel Brandon… but Darcy? Good grief.
Maybe I’m the odd one out but I’m not interested in finding a guy who insult my family, treats me like dirt in social settings and seems to think that helping a sister out of a situation he could have prevented will gain his fair lady’s affections. If Darcy’s total lack of manners isn’t enough, the fact that he has no problem meddling in the affairs of his friend should be sufficient to scratch him off the list of ideal literary husband material.
So, let’s think about this from the perspective of a Christian young woman who is keeping an eye out for the right guy (I refrain from saying looking/searching for a husband because that is no woman’s job- he pursues you, not the other way around, ladies)
1. Darcy was prideful
Yeah, this is in the title, I know. But think about that, won’t you? Darcy’s of the world would go totally against the Bible, especially the fruit of the Spirit. Your modern day Darcy would be a poor choice for a husband, since he’s going to lack the traits a Godly man would have and exhibit all the ones he shouldn't have. Plus, I don’t know about you but I’d rather not have a guy who is the subject of Proverbs 11:2, 16:5, 29:23, 16:18, and 8:13- also James 4:6, and 1 John 2:16. Just saying. Think wisely about whether that is acting with a Christ like attitude before you praise it.
2. Darcy was mean
Face facts, he was pure mean in that first proposal. Insulting Elizabeth’s family? Totally not necessary to the proposal. Any man comes along insulting my family before proposing, I’d say the last part of Matthew 12:34 comes into play (You know, ‘for out of the abundance of the heart the mouth speaketh) and he’s probably been dying to say something cruel about my family from the start. No thanks. Moving on. Plus does he just really think he can skip the whole ‘be ye kind one to another’ part of Ephesians 4:32? Wow, what a great modern day husband he would be. Probably would tell me just how fat I look in the dress, beyond a loving ‘maybe that’s not the dress for you, dear’. Perfect, isn’t he?
3. Darcy meddled
Obviously the best way to show your friends you care is to break apart their potential relationships. Translated to modern day times: Darcy would text your sister’s boyfriend and let him know she seems to be a flirt, he’s wasting his time, and the boyfriend should probably just block her on all social media. Let’s not forget, if your other sister gets into trouble due to his not speaking up about a guy he knew was no good- oh, but you can totally forget that because when he tries to fix the problem after the fact you’ll be so in love, it won’t matter. Yes, definitely, modern day Darcy, you are so the right man for every Christian girl to admire! Way to create problems to solve so you look like the good guy once everyone is reunited/saved from ruin!
4. Darcy was rich
No, being rich doesn’t inherently make him evil. But ladies, there are a lot of good guys out there who don’t own their own Pemberley. And just because a guy is rich- or sort of rich, or maybe just a little on the more wealthy side of the spectrum- doesn’t mean he’s a nice guy. Money doesn’t buy everything, or else Darcy could have bought himself a better personality and attitude.
5. Darcy didn’t defend Lizzy
Think about it. He had more than ample opportunity many times to speak up to his aunt in her defense. He could have done a lot more for Lizzy personally than he did. Did he? No, he was too busy whining about how she wasn’t worth his time or worth dancing with. Modern day translation: Get ready for a guy who will let anyone say anything about you and not speak up in your defense. Gossip floating around about you? Don’t expect him to be the hero. Friends insulting you? Don’t hope he will stand up and put a stop to it.
6. Darcy was Fictional
There it is. Reason number 1 (okay, six on my list but first and foremost in my heart) why I don’t want, nor am I looking for a Mr. Darcy. Look, everyone can seem better on paper- that’s because it’s a fictional story. The movies? Also fiction. Just in case you didn’t know, no one should be a real life Mr. Darcy walking around. We’re not in the 1800’s, pride is not attractive, nor do lack of emotions and Christ-like attitudes make a good husband. Face facts! A fictional character that was just about the worst example of a suitor in literary history is not the kind of man any girl should dream of.
Seriously, ladies! Which would you rather have: a kind, living and breathing guy who works an honest job and isn’t rich (did I mention Darcy didn’t seem to have any job other than making himself happy? Might have forgot that), will be kind, loving and honest, and treat you with respect OR a coldhearted, rude snob who would gladly ruin not only your life but the lives of those you hold dear for his own pleasure?
And before you go and say 'Well, no one is perfect, everyone has flaws'.... umm this is a lot worse than no one is perfect or having flaws, okay. This is like 'I couldn't care less if he's perfect as long as he proposes and I can say I'm married, the kind of man he is doesn't matter.' Just think about that for a moment.
I think it’s safe to say, girls who want a good, Godly husband shouldn’t be looking for a Mr. Darcy. They should be looking for the kind of man from Psalm 37:23 (The steps of a good man are ordered by the LORD: and he delighteth in his way.) or the many other examples in the Bible of what a truly good husband would be. Darcy types could hardly be classified as that type of man.
So, can you explain to me now what the fascination with Darcy of Pemberley is?
*Honestly though, since they're all fictional, I wouldn't really understand any of them being someone's ideal for a husband*