Monday, December 12, 2016

The Importance of Waiting

Anyone who knows me, knows that I love weddings. The dresses, the flowers, the decorating... I just love weddings. Perhaps this is because I haven't had my own wedding yet. Oh, I've planned it. I've got just about everything ready for my wedding that I can possibly prepare without even having a young man!
But I'm also glad God has had me wait as long as I have to get married. I'll soon be a quarter of a century old, which (in my family) is the longest a girl has gone without getting married. Part of this is due to the fact that there are a lack of young men in my church and town (and even less that are Godly young men) and the other part is that God knew I was not ready yet, so I've been made to wait.
Hmm, wait, not made... Let me change that....
I've been given opportunity to wait.
Waiting while trying to find your future spouse is not a burden, it's a blessing. As single young Christians, we are given a great opportunity to serve the Lord completely with our lives before we have the responsibility of a family and home. We have family obligations, of course, but we are not attached in the same way our parents or married friends and family are to one place.
Waiting is hard, yes. There have been days when I could have cried because I was so tired of waiting. But waiting with the view in mind that I can use this time to serve the Lord and not sit around and mope is wonderful. And yes, I do hope to get married (no one wants to wait forever) but until God sees fit to send a young man my direction, I'm happy!
A while back a friend and I had a Bible study on being content. It was around that time that I finally learned to be content in being single. I still plan my wedding, still crochet and sew things for my future home, but I don't sit around dwelling on it 24 hours a day anymore. I'm content to wait for God to say "Alright, now you are ready." and send the right guy in God's Time, not mine.
Don't get me wrong. If I could have been married five years ago, I probably would have. But it would have been a mistake. I can see now where I needed to grow up, where I needed to mature spiritually and mentally. The person I was at 20 years old is not the person I am now, praise the Lord. I probably still have things I need to learn or grow up in before the Lord decides I'm ready to get married, and so I'm using this time of waiting to find those things and prepare in them.
There's nothing wrong with marrying young if God directs a couple to, but there's something to be said for those of us who are given the chance to wait and grow up before we choose our spouse, or rather, God chooses them.
So, now that I've made my post on being single and content, I guess I need to go help with breakfast. Christmas is coming and I need to help plan a dinner, get a tablecloth washed and figure out how I'm going to get up before my brother big J and wake him up before he gets me (it's our little tradition)

I may not.... But.....

I may not have a palace,
But I have a home.
I may not have the perfect family,
But I have a family.
I may not have a thousand friends,
But I have Godly friends.
I may not have riches untold,
But I have salvation and that's most important.
I may not be the most eloquent speaker,
But my words are spoken in truth and kindness.
I may not be the most beautiful girl in the world,
But my Saviour created me and He made me how He wanted me to look.
I may not write the best books,
But if they make someone smile, cry or laugh, I'll be happy.
I may not cook the best food,
But I have food to cook and that's a blessing.
I may not be the smartest person,
But I know what real wisdom is and what isn't.
I may not be the best Sunday school teacher,
But 'my kids' make my heart joyful each week.
I may not be the greatest of writers,
But whatever I write, I'm writing for the glory of God.

Whether therefore ye eat, or drink, or whatsoever ye do, do all to the glory of God. 1 Corinthians 10:31